About Helena
Helena Frith Powell writes the French Mistress column in The Sunday Times about living in France. She is a regular contributor to the Daily Mail, Mail on Sunday, Daily Telegraph, the Sunday Telegraph, Tatler Magazine and Harper’s Bazaar.
She is the author of More France Please, we’re British, a book published in November 2004 by Gibson Square Books about her experiences in France. She is also the author of a book about French women called Two Lipsticks and a Lover published in October 2005 by Gibson Square Books. The paperback was published by Penguin in the US in December 2006 under the title All You Need to be Impossibly French. The paperback in the UK was published by Arrow in February 2007. It was also published in Russia, Thailand and China during 2007. It was published in France in March 2008 under the title So Chic!
She is also the author of a memoir called Ciao Bella, published by Gibson Square in October 2006. Her latest book about called To Hell in High Heels was published by Arrow in April 2008 and is all about how to age well.
Helena was educated at Durham University and lives in the Languedoc region of France with her husband Rupert Wright and their three children Olivia, Bea and Leonardo and two step-children Hugo and Julia.
01 Jan 1970 helena
Your books have been referred to often, and yes even purchased, by members of Yahoo group for francophiles called French Chic. Just thought you might like to drop in and say a few words - I bet your amazon rating pops up.
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/French_Chic/
I haven’t read Ciao Bella yet - but I have read 2 Lipsticks and also More French Please… I just saw on your web site More More French… must look into that one as well.
Regards,
Michèle Olender
When does ‘More More France’ come out? Is it an updated ‘More France’ or new?
Hello Paul
More, More France is an updated version of More France Please, around a third as long again. It is out now (as far as I know) but if you have any problems getting hold of it please email publicity@gibsonsquare.com
All best
Helena
Hello, found you through your comment on Poshmum’site! I quite like what you write, and I’ve also heard of your books. I would be a francophile, but my french is SHAMEFUL. I haven’t practice since my last family reunion…so about two years!
Hello Amber
No need to speak French to be a Francophile, they seem to put up with me!
All best
Helena
PS Am pleased my comment worked, it just seemed to bounce back at the time
Oh Helena,
How I enjoy your work!
You are just absolutely and impossibly adorable!!
Wrote a justifiably glowing review about your French expose (BlogCritics) and will of course follow this up with something bellissima about your Italian adventure.
Just wanted to pop in and say
Ciao Bella
xx
Claire
The Domestic Minx
Excuse, and what you think concerning forthcoming elections?
Interesting blog
Hello,
Just wanted to thank you for the best ‘francophilic frolic’ I have read in quite some time! I absolutley loved your book, devoured it in only a few hours. Your expose is candid and honest, and in all, the book has made me feel a whole lot better about aging, posture, and inspired me to adopt many French ways (and some to avoid!)
I have told many of my friends to read your book, so all the best, and thank you thank you thank you! (Merci?)
Kind regards
from Australia
(where we b/feed for up to 12 months.. tee hee! So true!)
I sped my way through your Two lipsticks and a lover: it was soooo entertaining! We had a french student to stay with us last summer. He was fortunate enough to have homes in Paris, the south of France and in the countryside just outside Paris (the family chateau). He was extremely good company- I stayed up way longer than usual having him talk AT me about the french novels he and I had read (yes he was a little arrogant but our previous four students had been pretty and utterly charming Italian females for whom my husband had gone out of his way -kind soul he is- to offer lifts, make packed lunches etc.!) Our french student seemed to want also to shame my two children (a young and older teenager) by offering to help me shop. “French children ALWAYS assist their mother with shopping!” he declared on the second day of his stay. He cooked the evening meal one Friday evening. I had explained that I was a little tired and anyway it was (almost) customary in our country to nip to the local Indian takeaway on that night of the week. He looked horrified. I went on to add that I hadn’t much in to prepare a meal with. “Your husband and children should help more in the kitchen!” he declared. ” I will use whatever is in your fridge to make a meal; that is the French way!” His meal was only just edible (it featured an uncooked egg) but I have made a huge effort since to avoid being wasteful as far as food is concerned as I think his way is better than mine as far as our finances go. As you stress in your brilliant book staying thin is of the utmost importance for the French woman. Well that’s good because our student was extremely rude about girls over size 10.The most memorable example is this: on our way to the shop we went passed the local pub. A young women alighted from a car and was wolf whistled at by several lads sitting drinking at tables. She was very pretty and the lads minded not a jot that her ever so slighly wobbly midriff was on show. My poor student though was mortified and I was very worried she might be able to hear as he looked at the ground repeating his judgement “Fat! fat! fat!” in a low voice until we were some way beyond the scene of the crime.
I look forward to reading more of your books and visiting France again.
Best wishes
from England
Cara Helena,
as you can guess I’m Italian ( but leaving in England). I read your books about French women and , more recently, your lovely “Ciao bella”. I work as a translator and Italian tutor in England and I ‘m always interested in what people see in other countries, the different ways people perceive cultural differences and I ‘ve often made jokes about the way I can spot people from different countries by just looking at their shoes… Your “ciao bella” was really sweet and I recognized a lot of my story in yours. It was lovely to find your blog as well.
can you tell me if you have Italian translated editions of your books? I would like to give them as presents to some of my Italian friends.
Complimenti , con simpatia
Chiara Borghesi
Salut Helena!
I have lived in S.W France for 5 years and my french is v.good, I buy almost all my clothes here, I have a good french haridresser, I have lost not just 10 kilos but 15, I even have a job here but everybody seems to know that I am British before I say a word! My friend just gave me your book Two lipsticks and a lover and now I know why…….I still buy my underwear at M and S and yes, I stock up on packs of five (oh the shame of it!) So, toulouse here I come and galeries Lafayette and La Perla if I’m feeling rich. And yes, I think those creams for cellulite do work. Many thanks for your book which also explained why I don’t have many french female girlfriends.
K
Hi Helena,
Just wanted to say that I’ve just finished reading your book “Two lipsticks and a lover” for the tenth time! I’ve learnt a lot from it, and I think New Zealand females are just as guilty as the English!
Although I do have a father who instilled the importance of skincare from the age of 9 - that is when I was brought my first skincare set (Clairns), and have not stopped since. My partner wonders at all the creams I apply to my face, and I’m only 22! But I can say that I have better skin that people my age.
I study law, and image seems to be quite important amongst fellow female law students; it was nice to have a compliment the other day about the bag I was carrying, my coat, plus my hair cut in which it called “very french”.
From a kiwi fan,
Denise
Hi Helena
Just returned from a fabulous summer holiday in Italy travelling to Rome/Tuscany (including Florence)/Venice. I am now reading Ciao Bella and loving it! I can imagine myself in the very streets/places you mention in Florence and Rome and reading it brought back wonderful memories of my time there! I had already read two Lipsticks and a Lover and hadn’t realised it was the same author. Loved that too! well done .
A new(ish) fan
I just listened to a program on Radio 4 Women’s Hour on which you made an appearance - a discussion of Ellen de Bruin’s book ‘Dutch Women Don’t Get Depresssed’ and its sentiment. It is, of course (as de Bruin readily admitted) another example of a ready habit that many people have to stereotype nationalities in a wildly uninformed manner. I can’t say I’m very interested in buying the book or discussing such silly stereotypes, but de Bruin seemed like a pleasant enough woman.
Despite the fact that we were listening a discussion on de Bruin’s book, however, it was your drawling sarcastic comments and performance that really stood out. And not, I assure you, in a positive way. You seem to have an unpleasant obsesion with perpetrating such mindless, crude stereotypes, and some of your responses verged on xenophobic. The one about how Dutch people were happy because they smoked drugs? Embarassing. As for your claim about how women are happier when they believe they look better? I can only judge from the ridiculously smug picture you posted of yourself on this page that you at least are wholly believing that you look ‘good’? Your snappy tone and silly jibes on Woman’s Hour, however, was not the behaviour of a happy woman.
I suppose, however, its all that can be expected from a woman who writes books with such ridiculous titles like ‘Two Lipsticks and a Lover’
Dear Abigail
The programme was meant to be light-hearted. Hence the jokes which you took so seriously.
Are you by any chance Dutch?
H
No, I am not Dutch. I was offended by your tone and attitudes in the show. I realise I initially came down on you too harshly and personally, and for that (and my failure to vet punctuation), I apologise.
I was upset because I really felt that the author of the book was being bullied by you, and rather needlessly. At one point in the program, you claimed that a certain comment that you made was meant to be a joke, but then muttered that Dutch people had no sense of humour. I think you behaved quite rudely, and that this made the atmosphere of the program negative. I accept it was a difficult discussion to appear on, and I think that the subject of the book wasn’t easy, but you were often aggressive and cutting. You attacked very stereotyped views of women of different nationalities for such petty things as a perceived lack of style, and the fact that you placed such heavy importance on this issue of appearance was disappointing. Women should be seen in fuller terms, surely? I felt it was a rather disempowering discussion, on a program which is meant to be useful to women.
I am sorry that I was initially so rude, but I think, as a woman who has an influence on a largely female readership, you might have been less aggressive towards women.
Hello again Abigail,
Apology accepted. I do realise that my sense of humour is not to everyone’s taste, but of course I was NOT being serious when I said Dutch people don’t have one, although she did seem slightly lacking it has to be said. I was never meaning to be aggressive, but having travlled for two hours to get there and been up all night with a sick child I really didn’t want to sit there and say nothing which I would have done had I not butted in.
Best
H
This is simply abhorrent. Women should be flattered for being sexually harassed? You completely trivialize a really significant matter. I’m male and if I saw this man commit this offense, I would report it to the police.Sexism does still exist you know? And THIS is an example of it.Maybe not in your cut off phallogocentric little world,but women are not ‘things’ that men can do what they like to. Would men here like it if a gay man pinched them on the bum? Grabbed their crotch area even? After all, it’s just his harmless way of telling you’re attractive. I somehow think you wouldn’t just ‘laugh it off’. I know some women claim that they’d like the attention(and I won’t go into details on that) but assuming that all women do? You really make me sick. Why should women be happy that men find them attractive? Do you consider that lesbian women exist? What does bum pinching achieve? The fact that a man can do what he wants to a woman? It is NOT acceptable, and you absolutely disgust me.
^ that comment was about your Daily Mail article by the way the top bit got cut off somehow
Interesting that you don’t mention you grew up in Sweden. And you look of course native Swedish.
Are you really that ashamed?
What an extraordinary thing to say! Of course I’m not ashamed. But as for looking Swedish, I wish I did.
Ha ha. Of course you look Swedish.
I have problems with this issue myself. Look at Cristina Odone.
I haven’t read all your stuff but my enemy is British provinciality. How was Durham? Cosmopolitan, I don’t expect.
When I go to Sweden, I find a population two generations away from peasanthood and very fond of quietly blowing its own trumpet. There’s a Norwegian saying that Sweden is a prawn in the Ocean that says: “I am a lobster, olook at me, I am a lobster.” The writer Christopher Moseley said: Sweden is a country that thinks much of itself but no one thinks much about it.
That said, there is much to be said for the country. Why don’t you you go and write sometjing interesting and even - pause - vaguely nice and untabloidy about Sweden? You have already got the information.
It might do you some good.
I write as someone who has shared your small-town ennui.
regards
Hi Helena,
Long time no speak!
I came across some of your articles in Sunday Times and Grazia magazine and thought to try to get in touch hence this message.
In case you remember me from the old days (at Central European), do drop me a line.
Best,
Milena
Helena,
Our family recently went on a trip to Europe for 5 months, and a family friend purchased your book, All You Need To Be Impossibly French (Two Lipsticks And A Lover). It was amazing, and completely changed how I view things like face creams and matching underwear.
Merci Beaucoup, and I hope that you write more books on the French in the future.
Hello Helen,
I would appreciate you allowing me to wrtite to you to ask for help/advice in purchasing a property in France.
Don’t want to put detail here but as mentioned would appreciate making contact with you.
Many thanks. Robert.
Dearest Helena,
I meant to write this sooner but I got busy at work. Your apology for the American bashing was totatlly unnecessary. It was Jules’ comments that really made me angry. Who even watches (or listens to) the rappers and other bizarre characters on TV these days. I just find the attitude behind the comments to be offensive to me as an American. It reflects an upper class British attitude that “I am better than you.” Most of my countrymen do not dress, talk and act like these folks. I’ll bet it is the same in Britain. I liken the addiction to schlock TV to be somethng like a watching a train wreck. You don’t really want to watch it but you can’t tear your eyes away. Fortunately “I do not have this problem. Anyway, I felt obliged to stand up for my country. Your blogs continue to entertain and challenge me. Thanks for listening.
Sharyn G.
i would just like to say that i loved your book ‘to lipsticks and a lover’
i thought it was very funny at points, especially the chapter on children.
i thought it was going to be a trashy read, but i was proven very wrong and got a very good insight into the french way of living.
i am only a teenager, but now i certainly think about religiously cleansing my face!
i have just purchased ciao bella on amazon, and the title alone enthralls me as it was all i understood when i visited italy!
regards,
anna
Thanks Anna, that’s lovely to hear. And enjoy Ciao Bella!
Hx
Helena,
Please tell your real age…I am intrigued….
Hi Mel
I could tell you but then I’d have to kill you……it is, however, in my book To Hell in High Heels.
Hx
I am halfway through your new book AND CANNOT GET ENOUGH OF IT!!!!! How are the lips, by the way? Are they back to normal yet? I am so taken by your book that I’m also hoping to book into one of your ‘renew retreats’. Can you post some information on the weekend retreats please?
Thanks,
Mel
Dear Helena,
I just felt the urge to tell you how much I enjoyed your books “Two Lipsticks and a Lover” and “To Hell in High Heels”! Right now I`m reading “Ciao Bella”, which is moving, interesting, funny and intelligent.
When I first spotted “Two Lipsticks”, I expected something in the genre of chick-lit, but your books are so much more, so witty and great!
Like you, I’m also a “cocktail” of different nationalities; growing up in Finland, mother tongue Swedish, Russian ancestors and now married in Germany. I find your research into cultural differences highly entertaining and interesting.
All the best!
Kia
Hejsan Kia
Thank you for your lovely post, I am so glad you liked the books. I am glad to hear I’m not the only one who is a total and utter mixture, I can’t believe I further confused things by moving to France!
Hx
Dear Helena
Now your moving to Abu dabi ( ? ) will your articles be appearing in the Sunday times ?
Michael :O)
Hello Michael
I will still be writing for the Sunday Times, but not a regular columm, at least not yet.
Hx